Sunday, November 18, 2012


I am good at what I do and, frankly, don't need a communication assessment. Nevertheless, the director required that I participate. The process was silly and the questions irrelevant. I responded honestly, but quickly and without over-thinking.
How long is this going to take?

One week later, I had a twenty-three page report in hand, all after a simple Q&A.

     You have great empathy for others, and your understanding of people can make you a great listener and confidante. Friendship is very high on your list of personal values, and you are most-content when you are in a tight-knit group that features little dissension. You tolerate different ideas and opinions, and you willingly accept people from backgrounds other than your own. You display a heightened awareness of human nature and personal relations. You are usually quite supportive of your friends, and you may even help those who are mere acquaintances. You rarely reject anyone.

     Dimension: Steadiness
     Emotions: accepts affection; rejects aggression
     Judges others by: commitment to tolerate and include everyone
     Overuses: kindness
     Value to others: supports, harmonizes, empathizes, focuses on service
     Fears: dissension; conflict
     Would increase effectiveness with more: strength in the realization of who they are and what they can do; firmness and self-assertion; ability to say "no" when appropriate

He then listed what he thought to be my most intense character attributes...


How can a stranger understand me better than anyone else?
Or better.. why does being such a supportive, accepting, generous, and loyal person so often leave me in the cold?



  1. The world is not supportive or accepting, and people are not naturally generous or loyal.
    I'm sorry that I do not have a solution but rather a reason to your query...

    But I applaud your key virtues and personal aspects; I lament the demise of society and general manners today.

  2. Good things happen to bad people. I don't know why, it's just the way the world works.


  3. Because when we care, people think they can dance over our heads.
    When we don't give a rat's ass, they hover around wanting for attention.

    +To Me It Matters+

  4. I think being those things leaves you in the cold because you allow vulnerability, and you do so knowing the outcome. It's a trait i wish more of us could display. I can definitely appreciate it when i see it.